Pregnancy and Infant Loss

Support for Women and Families going through Miscarriage, Baby loss or Child Loss

PREGNANCY & INFANT LOSS

Depending where you reside an independent Perinatal Bereavement Worker / Bereavement Doula will assist with miscarriage, stillbirth, early baby loss and NICU loss and for counseling only; any other child loss situation.

Having suffered her own pregnancy losses and through assisting many parents with miscarriage and child loss, Nicci has personal experience, knowledge and understanding about baby loss, grief and bereavement. She assists parents in Pretoria and surrounding areas. For other areas, please contact Nicci to be supplied with the name and number of an independent Perinatal Bereavement Worker in your vicinity to assist you.

A professional specifically trained to assist parents with miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss, called a Perinatal Bereavement Worker (PBW), is there to walk alongside you and offer you continuous physical and emotional support before, during and after your birth. She can help you find resources to answer your questions, build your support network, be with you as you say hello to your child, assist you during the precious moments of creating memories with your baby and hold the space for you as you navigate saying goodbye to your baby. A PBW will assist you to make empowered decisions where your precious baby is concerned. In South Africa, before 26 weeks of gestation, a fetus that showed no signs of life after delivery are disposed of as medical waste. However, a Perinatal Bereavement Worker will ensure that you get the opportunity to have your baby cremated or buried.

A Perinatal Bereavement Worker will:

  • Help you meet your baby with compassion

  • Prepare you for what your beautiful baby may look like

  • Encourage you to take your time with your little one

  • Help you manage the arrival of family and friends in your time of loss and help them find ways to express their grief while being of support in yours

  • Teach you how to keep your baby’s temperature just right so you and your family may spend more time with him or her

  • Call family and friends if that is your wish

  • Take infant portraits and family portraits

  • Help you create a memory box for your baby — including a lock of hair, foot and hand prints, and more.

  • Advocate for you at the hospital, to make sure you are in an area free from other baby or labour sounds that may be difficult

  • Talk to you, listen to you, hold the birth space sacred

  • If your hospital does not issue an birth certificate due to baby’s age, your bereavement birth worker will create one for you

  • Assist you to make contact with baby-centred funeral services or any other funeral home of your choice, who will help you plan for a service, blessing, Christening, ceremony or other memorial or remembrance as you see fit

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